Chastity Cages: A Pleasure Prison for Your Penis
Picture this: you're in a BDSM dungeon, ready to engage in some kinky play with your dom. As they slide a shiny, metal cock cage over your penis and turn the key, you can't help but feel a mixture of excitement and frustration. Welcome to the world of chastity play, where pleasure, abstinence and humiliation collide in a tantalizing mix.
But how do you prepare for chastity play? And can you really lock your penis up 24/7? In this 101 guide to chastity play and cock cages, we will answer these questions and more!
Communication! Communication! Communication!
Before you even embark on your chastity play journey, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Trust us, you don't want to end up in a situation where your partner thinks they're playing a kinky game of hide and seek while you're left wondering where the hell your key is.
Discuss each other's aims and desires and make sure you both understand what "chastity play" actually means. It's not just about locking up your junk and throwing away the key (although that is a big part of it!)
Here are some questions to discuss:
What are each partner's aims?
What are you actually hoping to get out of chastity play? Do you want to explore your submissive side or let the dominant part of your personality run wild? Maybe you just want to see how long you can go without an orgasm before you start seeing stars. Whatever your aims, make sure you discuss them with your partner before diving headfirst into the world of chastity play.
What types of roleplay does each partner want to try?
Chastity play can be a great way to explore different power dynamics and roleplay scenarios. Maybe you want to be the prisoner to your partner's prison guard, or perhaps you want to be the naughty schoolboy whose teacher locks him up to teach him a lesson. Whatever your fantasies, make sure you discuss them with your partner so you're both on the same page.
Is the chastity cage just for playtime or for permanent use?
If you're considering permanent chastity play, it's important to discuss the implications of this decision. Are you willing to take on the sub role 24/7, or will there be times when you can take the chastity cage off? As permanent chastity play is not for the faint-hearted, it's important to discuss the psychological and emotional impact before you make a commitment.
Time to Go Shopping
Once you've had "the talk" with your partner, it's time to go shopping for a chastity cage. But don't just grab any old cage off the shelf in Tesco! You need to consider the material, size and special features of the cage. For example, if you're planning on wearing the cage for extended periods of time, you might want to opt for a silicone cock cage that's more flexible and comfortable. On the other hand, if you want something a bit more heavy-duty, a stainless steel cage may be the best option.
And let's not forget about aesthetics. Some people like to show off their chastity cages as a sign of submission, while others prefer a more discreet cage that can be hidden under clothing.
As one sub put it:
"I want my cage to be like my little secret, you know? Like a naughty little surprise that only myself and my keyholder know about. That means I can wear it 24/7. To work, to the supermarket, to the pub…and nobody suspects a thing!"
Building a Relationship with Your Chastity Cage
Before you even think about putting your chastity cage on, you need to get to know it intimately. Take it apart, put it back together, and test it out on a hot dog (or a carrot, if you're vegan). Make sure everything is in working order and that there are no sharp edges that could cause discomfort or injury.
If you notice any issues, contact the supplier and explain the issue. They may send you a replacement cage or explain how to use the cage if you can’t work it out.
Locking Yourself Up
Now it's time for the main event: locking yourself up in your shiny new metal chastity cage. But before you do, make sure you're properly prepared. Trim any excess hair around your genitals and lather up with plenty of lube. This will prevent any unexpected chafing or discomfort.
When it comes to actually putting the cage on, start with the base ring and work your way up. Once you attach the cage itself to the base ring, adjust it to make sure you have the perfect fit. One professional dominatrix who controls the key for no less than 5 subs explains:
“You don’t want to feel like you're being strangled down there but you also don't want your cage slipping off at an inopportune moment. Tight but comfortable is always the best way."
Handing Over the Keys
Now that you're locked up and ready to go, it's time to think about where to keep your keys. It's important to always have a key on hand in case of emergencies, but you also want to make sure it's secure and not easily accessible. A chain round your neck, a safe with a memorable combination or on the ring with your house and car keys are all popular choices.
One dom explains her number one rule that she tells all her subs:
“Never hand all the keys over to your dom. It doesn’t matter if they are your partner, a dom you have been with for years or if you want to prove your absolute loyalty. There are always emergency situations that can arise and the last thing you want is to turn up at the hospital needing the doctor to pick the lock.”
Surveying the Scene
Now that you're locked up and ready to go, it's important to regularly check for any issues. Make sure the cage is snug but not too tight, and that you're comfortable in your new state of chastity. If you notice any discomfort or pain, don't hesitate to take a break and let your body recover.
Keeping It Clean and Fresh
You also need to keep your chastity cage clean and fresh, especially if you are locked up 24/7. This means regularly washing it with soap and water, and disinfecting it a couple of times a week or after each use. And don't forget to regularly clean yourself too, especially around the base ring where the cage attaches to your body.
Chastity play can be a thrilling and exciting way to explore your sexuality and power dynamics with your partner. However, it's important to approach it with caution and communicate openly to ensure the best chastity experience. And remember, chastity play isn't just about locking up your cock in beautiful resin chastity cage and throwing away the key. It's about exploring your desires, building trust with your partner and having a damn good time! Enjoy!