Kinky Wardrobe Advice: How to Put on a Chastity Cage
If you're reading this, it is likely that your little fella has just been sentenced to a long stretch inside by your merciless dom. Or perhaps, you are looking for a permanent solution that will stop your sub from touching themselves when you have expressly forbidden it? Either way, you've come to the right place. Chastity cages are the ultimate BDSM devices that can reinforce power dynamics and authority like no other sexual aids.
But as Mistress Ruby, a professional dominatrix and chastity enthusiast explains:
"Nobody likes waiting for their useless sub to fumble around with their chastity cage. It’s a sure way to guarantee some serious punishment!”
So if you want to avoid displeasing your master or mistress, here is our step-by-guide to putting on a chastity cage safely and securely.
Step One: Safety First
Before we get into the nitty-gritty, let's talk safety. It's important to take some precautions before you put on your chastity cage, to avoid any discomfort or injury.
First and foremost:
Choose the right size
If the chastity cage is too tight, it can cause pain or even damage, while if it's too loose, it won't be effective. Don't just guess – measure yourself carefully to make sure you have the perfect fit. Starting with a resin chastity cage is also recommended.
"Always check the measurements before you put on a chastity cage," says Mistress Ruby, a professional dom. "If it's too tight, it can cut off circulation which can be potentially very dangerous, particularly if the wearer is a newbie and suffers in silence. On the other hand, you also see a lot of people cheating and choosing an oversized cage that is lovely and comfy! Well, that just defies the whole point! It’s not supposed to be a silk sock for your cock!”
Second:
Make duplicate keys
This may sound counterintuitive when the whole point is to give up control of your penis to your keyholder but accidents happen and you don't want to be stuck in your cage if you lose the only key. Keep a spare somewhere safe, just in case!
Finally:
Write up a chastity contract
This might sound a bit formal but it's a good way to establish boundaries and expectations between you and your partner. Make sure you both agree on things like how long you'll be wearing the cage, when it can be taken off and what the consequences will be if the rules are broken.
You can have a lot of fun writing your chastity contract but it is also one of the most important safety precautions you can take.
Step 2: Prepare the Ground
Now that you've got the safety stuff out of the way, let's talk about preparing your body. It's important to remove any pubic hair before putting on your chastity cage to avoid any discomfort or complications. But don't just go in with a razor – that can leave you with itchy regrowth or shaving rash which the cage could aggravate. Instead, try trimming the hair short with scissors or clippers. This will make it easier to see any discolouration, bruising or other warning signs that might indicate a problem when you are wearing the cage.
Step 3: Get Lovely and Lubey
Now it's time for the fun part – lube! Lube is your best friend when it comes to putting on a chastity cage. It will make the process smoother and more comfortable and help prevent any chafing or rubbing. But be careful what kind of lube you use – silicone lube should never be used with silicone chastity cages as it can degrade the materials. Instead, use a water-based lube which is suitable for all materials.
"When it comes to lube, less is not more," says Mistress Ruby. "You want to use a generous amount, to ensure everything slips and slides where it needs to."
Step 4: Put a Ring On It
The first step in putting on a chastity cage is to attach the base ring. This is the part that sits around the base of your penis and holds the cage in place. Make sure it's the right size and adjust it if necessary. Then, use lube to make it easier to slide on. It should fit snugly, but not too tight.
Step 5: Complete the Penis Prison
Now it's time for the main event – attaching the chastity cage to the base ring. This can be a bit fiddly, but with some practice, you'll get the hang of it. Make sure you're using plenty of lube to avoid any discomfort. Gently slide the cage over your penis, making sure everything is in the right place. Once it's in position, use the locking pinks to secure the cage to the base ring. And voila – you're now locked up!
Step 6: Lock the Cage and Surrender the Keys
Now that you're all caged up, it's time to lock it and surrender the keys. Some chastity cages come with internal locking systems while others use external padlocks. Whatever the design of your cage, make sure the key actually works before you lock yourself in. After that, hand the key over to your keyholder and begin your sentence.
As Mistress Ruby explains:
"Handing over the key is a huge part of the power dynamic in chastity play. It's a way for the sub to show their trust and surrender their control to the dom. I love the responsibility of being in charge of my sub’s cock and I even let them free once in a while…when they deserve it, that is!”
Step 7: Pop a Sock On It
If you're struggling to get the cage on, there's a trick you can try – the stocking method. This involves putting a socking over your penis and then sliding the cage over the socking. This can make it easier to get everything in the right position, and can also help prevent any pinching or discomfort.
"I actually love doing it this way!" says Mistress Ruby. "First I make my sub take my stocking off with their teeth and worship my feet. When I’m ready, I slip the stocking onto their little guy and lock them up tight in one of my favourite metal chastity cages!”
Final Thoughts
Congratulations, you've now successfully put on your chastity cage! But before you go off to enjoy your new toy, remember that communication is key. Make sure you and your partner remain on the same page about what you're comfortable with and don't be afraid to speak up if something doesn't feel right. Most importantly, have fun with it! Chastity play can be a really exciting and rewarding experience, as long as you approach it with an open mind, a sense of humour and a willingness to lose yourself in your role.